Dominant heterosexual man.
prettylittledirti asked: … So, what makes a pervert civilized?
Civilised is wanting to help a woman up, praise her, teach her what I can and fall in love with her. While perverted is wanting to tie a woman down, spank her, tell her what to do and use her as a fucktoy.
For much of my life I didn’t believe the two could/should co-exist in one heart. I suppressed my true sexual nature, which for a sexual being is really not healthy.
I’m a decent honourable guy, I’ve had friends tell me they use me as a “moral compass” (actual quote), as in “What would Trilby do?” (actual quote with name changed). I’m proud of that.
Until recent years I was ashamed of my sexual self, but not any longer. That is what brings me here, to come further out of the closet as a filthy pervert, to speak publicly (though through a pseudonym at this point) about my depraved lusts, to own them, to be proud of them.
I’m Trilby Grey and I’m a civilised pervert.
I’m a loving dominant. Dominant meaning that I thrive on controlling my lover, especially in the bedroom: telling her what to do; what to wear; how to please me. Loving meaning that I care for my lover deeply and want the best for her: I encourage her; nurture her; massage her; bring her breakfast in bed. Then roll her over and use her for my (our) pleasure.
Clearly this only works with a lover who is just as into being submissive. Treating someone this way against their will is reprehensible - and a major turn-off.